I've been studying and teaching self-development
for a few years now. I had my first insight when I was 18, and read the poster
in the Kalgoorlie Miner staff-room (the regional daily newspaper I worked for) that
said, "Change your thoughts and you change your world" by Norman
Vincent Peale.
I felt different. I was intrigued. I then went on
to read many self-development books and study programs and would share the
ideas with anyone who was mildly interested. "Isn't that amazing?" I
thought, and still do. I am still studying the power of the mind and our
amazing brain. I often need to remind myself of what I know. I believe that we
all possess great knowledge but don't usually apply it. Think of any study you
have done. You have learned it. Now we must remember to apply it.
We often learn something, and then slip back into
our old habits. How to change will be featured in another blog post.
It's the same with life lessons. I also believe
that we receive the same lessons until we get them. We learn from them so that
we can progress on our life journey. I believe we receive a life lesson in
order not to repeat it, and to help others. Even with tragic events, there will
be one positive result from it, and we often can't see this, or understand
this, but I believe it to be true. A tragic event can be part of the bigger
picture and often causes awareness of a serious issue and therefore prevents a
bigger problem. That's an idea I've had, when I question the tragedies of
the world. The best thought for you, if you are involved in a tragedy or
very sad event, is that you don't need to understand it.
I have learned to let go. I know in theory this is
the best advice, but not always easy to do in practice.
Let go of everything that causes you unhappiness.
Reframe a belief.
If your current belief is, "Why did this
happen to me?”, you can reframe this to, "I don't need to understand this
now, but I will keep on going and I will get through this. I will be strong and
brave and be around loving people. One day this may make sense to me, and it
may never make sense to me. The best thing I can do right now is to let go of
the need to ask "Why", and to be in the present moment."
Being in the present moment, as I've written about
in previous posts, keeps us sane and calm. Do whatever you can to be present -
as the brilliant Eckhart Tolle tells us in his breakthrough book, "The
Power of Now", in the present moment we don't have any problems. I suggest
you read this book for the perfect explanation of the power of being in the
present.
I can’t know your personal situation, and nor can I
understand the sad and tragic events in our world.
I know that I feel deep compassion for anyone who
has suffered in any way (that’s most of us), and I love to learn about how to
help people feel good, regardless of the situation.
I intended this blog to be about my F.A.B theory,
but it then took a turn to write about dealing with a tragedy. Sometimes the
blog writes itself.
My message today is that if you are suffering from
a tragedy or sad event, don't ask "Why?", but focus on being present.
Be here now, and enjoy what you have, and be with loving people. Talk to
someone loving and caring. My business, Love Heart offers coaching for people
to change their beliefs and to live a happy life, however this is not an ad for
my business. I believe if you need to talk, talk to anyone - it doesn't need to
be a counsellor or coach. My best confidantes are my mum and my best
friends.
Be present. Be loving. Be kind. Do whatever you can
to feel good. That's the best you can do.
Lots of love,
Donna
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